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briannell · Post by **briannell** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 9:05 am

thank you that's perfect and just what I needed!!!!

OMG I am thanking a Griz!!!

yeah when Brian called from overseas i'm bad and didn't say anything because most husbands would get pissy and he's in a war zone already.

funny thing -- instructor wonders why his wife EVER divorced his...he's a psycho weirdo, not bad looking, but hell for this behavior ya better look like Brad Pitt if ya expect the lady to stay. well any woman with an IQ greater than a peanut, and with a good self image. I also know why he's no longer a Marine!!!!

Post by **SonomaCat** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 9:09 am

How, exactly, did the conversation ever get to a point where he is telling you about his sex life? Did he just spontaneously bring it up?

If so, you should complain to his boss (if he isn't self-employed).

gtapp · Post by **gtapp** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 9:21 am

It reminds me of the story of the high school boys who had a beautiful teacher offering sex. From an outsider perspective it may sound disgusting but from the boys perspective its THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!

If you can get it great. He is doing nothing wrong. If you don't like it fine, either tell him bluntly and honestly or let it go. Two options, pick one!

If I am ever single again (and I hope I never am) and I have the chance to have a relationship with 20+ year old women/girls, well that would be GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!

LTown Cat · Post by **LTown Cat** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 9:49 am

I think you not agreeing with what he is doing is fine, but that is your opinion and exactly what you shouldn't want to get into with him. That will start an argument.

However, you not wanting to hear about it is another story entirely. You have every right to tell him not to talk about it with you. He should understand that.

briannell · Post by **briannell** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 9:53 am

actually Brad on had little itty bitty chit chat , mentioned his divorce, his stint in the marines, and he was lonely since the divorce had no contact for a week and made the mistake of saying "hey you seem perky today what have you been up to?" For some reason this translated to "please tell me if are you getting laid?"

he's not evil, and he's always complimenting me on how i am such and nice little wife, and obviously love my kids and am a good mom, that he iunderstands how hard it is to be separated so long from your spouse, because that's what led to his divorce.

Just i'd rather not know anyone else's sex life!!!!! Men for some reason love to tell me these things, he's not the first, they tell me I'm really "easy to talk to." I'm non threatening and sweet

it's not that it's just I'm too wimpy to yell "shut the hell up you sicko!!!" so I bite my tongue. which is what got me here today

Post by **SonomaCat** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 10:09 am

Rebecca: But just for the sake of looking at things from a different perspective, you do bring up sex a lot on this board in rather playful ways, so perhaps you said something to him at some point that gave him the idea that the subject was okay to talk about?

CARDIAC_CATS · Post by **CARDIAC_CATS** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 11:08 am

briannell wrote:
he's 36 and screwing a 25 and 20 year old females. simple he has cash (makes over 200K a year) & they have P---y. i'd probable just ignore it , but he constantly brings it up and how it's "oh i love her and she loves me BS" been biting my tongue, but as a mom, and woman I'm repulsed.

1) Good for him for making that much money.

2) I would say if the females are that shallow to hang out with him for his money then there is nothing wrong with it. Believe me, it ain't the first time women have used men for their money

briannell · Post by **briannell** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 1:01 pm

oh but brad playful with people that already know me is very different. when it's professional, and I'm paying to learn something, I don't see these people in a social group of mine. he was moody , crabby, up until the day I asked what perked him up, I just listened to instructions and avoided him. I talk with the gals, that's how he saw me as social.

seriously, i have NEVER came out and asked anyone to graphically discuss their sex lives with me!!!! He has described his penis, how he likes his sex, the best positions in his opinion, that he'd love to be a "play toy" did I know anyone needing one. he told me to which I was confused before someone explained it , that he's been at half mast all day could I help.

catatac · Post by **catatac** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 1:38 pm

briannell wrote:oh but brad playful with people that already know me is very different. when it's professional, and I'm paying to learn something, I don't see these people in a social group of mine. he was moody , crabby, up until the day I asked what perked him up, I just listened to instructions and avoided him. I talk with the gals, that's how he saw me as social.

seriously, i have NEVER came out and asked anyone to graphically discuss their sex lives with me!!!! He has described his penis, how he likes his sex, the best positions in his opinion, that he'd love to be a "play toy" did I know anyone needing one. he told me to which I was confused before someone explained it , that he's been at half mast all day could I help.

Sorry, I'm not buying this. His talking like that obviously doesn't bother you that much or you would have either said something to him about it or otherwise made it known that you weren't interested in having those discussions with him the first time he said something like that... and sorry, I'm also not buying the "And he's always packing heat so I don't want to pi$$ him off" thing either. What's he gonna do... shoot ya?

Not trying to offend, just calling it like I see it!

catamaran · Post by **catamaran** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 1:43 pm

briannell wrote:oh but brad playful with people that already know me is very different. when it's professional, and I'm paying to learn something, I don't see these people in a social group of mine. he was moody , crabby, up until the day I asked what perked him up, I just listened to instructions and avoided him. I talk with the gals, that's how he saw me as social.

seriously, i have NEVER came out and asked anyone to graphically discuss their sex lives with me!!!! He has described his penis, how he likes his sex, the best positions in his opinion, that he'd love to be a "play toy" did I know anyone needing one. he told me to which I was confused before someone explained it , that he's been at half mast all day could I help.

If that's the case it sounds like you might be in line to own a new business venture

LTown Cat · Post by **LTown Cat** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 1:47 pm

catamaran wrote:
briannell wrote:oh but brad playful with people that already know me is very different. when it's professional, and I'm paying to learn something, I don't see these people in a social group of mine. he was moody , crabby, up until the day I asked what perked him up, I just listened to instructions and avoided him. I talk with the gals, that's how he saw me as social.

seriously, i have NEVER came out and asked anyone to graphically discuss their sex lives with me!!!! He has described his penis, how he likes his sex, the best positions in his opinion, that he'd love to be a "play toy" did I know anyone needing one. he told me to which I was confused before someone explained it , that he's been at half mast all day could I help.
If that's the case it sounds like you might be in line to own a new business venture

Or at least a portion of $200K/year.

briannell · Post by **briannell** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:02 pm

yep the other ladies think I should get a lawyer too!

he says it in a smartass way, but he did say in front of others that it must be lonely, and if I miss a man may be he could come over sometime and help me out a little. That's when he told me he's never had anything but praise when women ride him on top. and he's been horny all day.

---for the always packing heat yeah because he's My gun instructor, he's always armed around me..and yeah i'm afraid on an oops you pissed me off so i shot you happening to me.

catamaran · Post by **catamaran** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:06 pm

I'm not sure in today's society there is a proper way to offer to "service" a married lady when you are in a position of authority ie weapons instructor

Hello Kitty · Post by **Hello Kitty** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:16 pm

briannell wrote:yep the other ladies think I should get a lawyer too!

he says it in a smartass way, but he did say in front of others that it must be lonely, and if I miss a man may be he could come over sometime and help me out a little. That's when he told me he's never had anything but praise when women ride him on top. and he's been horny all day.

---for the always packing heat yeah because he's My gun instructor, he's always armed around me..and yeah i'm afraid on an oops you pissed me off so i shot you happening to me.

Rebecca,
I think if you are truly worried that this person could accidentally shoot you then you need to find a new instructor. And maybe your new instructor won’t be a Neanderthal that is also a plus.

briannell · Post by **briannell** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:30 pm

the only good thing is sept 4th he leaves for Afganistan, one lady dropped altogether, there are 4 of us left and I'm passing on the last class.

-----as for the one comment about not buying it That I must like it or be ask for it in some way or I'd speak up and tell him off....that's not my personality. I am not dominant, i hate to upest people, and i hate screaming matches more than anything. i'd rather blend into the background that scream at someone. -- i'm wussy

catamaran · Post by **catamaran** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:43 pm

briannell wrote:the only good thing is sept 4th he leaves for Afganistan, one lady dropped altogether, there are 4 of us left and I'm passing on the last class.

-----as for the one comment about not buying it That I must like it or be ask for it in some way or I'd speak up and tell him off....that's not my personality. I am not dominant, i hate to upest people, and i hate screaming matches more than anything. i'd rather blend into the background that scream at someone. -- i'm wussy

Hence, the loaded weapon

Hello Kitty · Post by **Hello Kitty** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 3:05 pm

briannell wrote:the only good thing is sept 4th he leaves for Afganistan, one lady dropped altogether, there are 4 of us left and I'm passing on the last class.

-----as for the one comment about not buying it That I must like it or be ask for it in some way or I'd speak up and tell him off....that's not my personality. I am not dominant, i hate to upest people, and i hate screaming matches more than anything. i'd rather blend into the background that scream at someone. -- i'm wussy

R - E- S- P- E- C- T

find out what it means to me

Just sing that to yourself.

urcrackinmeup · Post by **urcrackinmeup** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 4:28 pm

briannell wrote:it's not that it's just I'm too wimpy to yell "shut the hell up you sicko!!!" so I bite my tongue. which is what got me here today

Rebecca - put on your big girl panties and TELL him you do not want to hear about his sex life. Don't bite your tongue, don't go to his boss, just tell him like you mean it. It's called being a grown-up.

catsrback76 · Post by **catsrback76** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 5:37 pm

briannell wrote: it sounded bad what i wrote.

He's is simply a weapons instructor I know. i LOVE Glocks!!!!! supposed to possibly hook me up with a shooting partner. I want to get better may be sport shoot more often.

NO, I'm still married last time I checked, together 12 years. I don't like hearing about it.

it's not the girls , it's his decision to go outside the norms that i question. his integrity and morality is skewed, and I really object. I just want a tactful way to say that, before I blurt out to me he's just as bad as a pedophile.

Do you object to the age of the women he is having sex with? Would it make you more comfortable if he was laying with older women? I'm not being coy but curious if the issue of extramarital sex, or the age of the people involved.

On the side, I think the easiest thing is to simply step back from the relationship you have with him, or tell him that you do not want to hear or know about his sex life. If he is talking to you about it, he might be interested in you.

briannell · Post by **briannell** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 5:39 pm

not telling his boss...he is the boss! Just dropping it altogether. not the first pervert i've met have a couple neighbors on the street behind me just as bad and I know their wives. so i'm just letting it drop,

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